Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse affects people of all sexual orientations, gender identities or expressions.

Almost one in three men in same-sex relationships have experienced, or are experiencing domestic abuse. We know that men in same-sex relationships are less likely to report domestic abuse and continue to live in silence.

Domestic abuse is a pattern of controlling behaviours by a partner or ex-partner and can be emotional, mental, financial, physical or sexual, including sex by coercion and without consent. It may also include homophobic, biphobic or transphobic abuse.

We know that domestic abuse can be extremely difficult to talk about. At SX, we can help you talk things through at your own pace and on your own terms. We will not force you to discuss anything that feels uncomfortable, and we will never take any action against your partner unless you want us to (or unless you are in serious immediate danger).

Trans men and Domestic Abuse 

Recent studies tell us that trans men are more likely to experience domestic abuse than their cisgender counterparts.   

Domestic abuse can take many forms, but some signs that your partner is abusive can include: 

  • Making you feel shame about your body  
  • Purposely misgendering you or belittling your identity to family and friends 
  • Physically and/or sexually harming your body parts such as chest or genitals 
  • Blaming you when you experience transphobic attitudes in society 
  • Preventing you from transitioning, taking hormones, wearing certain clothes or living as your true identity 
  • Threatening to out  your sexual and gender identity 

At SX, we want to you to know that we’re here, and that well work with you to build confidence and ensure that you feel able to access the correct support.  

Getting Support

If you think that you might be experiencing domestic abuse, you can arrange one-to-one support via the live chat in the bottom right corner or phone and speak to one of the team on 0131 652 3250. 

If you would like some information about what to do if you're experiencing domestic abuse, The LGBT Domestic Abuse Project has information on their website (the project is run by LGBT Youth Scotland, but this information is designed for LGBTI+ people of all ages).

Police Scotland

Many gay, bisexual and men who have sex with men find it difficult to report domestic abuse to the police. This is often because of fear judgement (stigma), prejudice or not understanding some of the issues that might arise.

Police Scotland are sensitive to the needs of LGBTI+ people experiencing domestic abuse and have specially trained LGBT Liaison Officers all over Scotland.

You can report domestic abuse on the Police Scotland website. Alternatively, if you are unsure, you can discuss it with SX first.

Other Support

Abused Men in Scotland (AMIS) supports male victims of domestic abuse all over Scotland.

Rape Crisis Scotland provides support to people of all genders and sexual orientations who have experienced sexual violence.

Not Your Fault is a peer-led support group for men and non-binary people

Fear Free is a support service for any man, or LGBTI+ person experiencing domestic abuse