Coming Out

One of the biggest decisions a person from the LGBTQI+ community can make is when and how to come out to people they know. It’s an important life event, representing a time when you feel confident in who you are.

For some, it’s something they look forward to embracing. For others, fear of how people may react can make them feel vulnerable. Some may decide to never open up about their sexuality because it may bring about too many complications in life.

One thing is for certain - the only person that should decide when and how to come out is you.

Coming out to those closest to you can give a feeling of confidence and contentment, and a sense of being supported. This may also help you to face other challenges that gay, bisexual and all men who have sex with men face. It can be a gradual process which happens in stages. This might begin with a close friend or relative who you trust before going on to tell others. It’s something that you’ll find yourself doing over and over again, whether it’s meeting new friends, changing your job, registering with a doctor and so on.

However, you should never feel pressured to come out. You might not feel that the time is right or you may still be trying to make sense of who you are. You might decide to never come out at all and it’s entirely up to you – just because society wants to label people doesn’t mean you have to.

All LGBTQI+ identities are protected from discrimination. It is illegal today in Scotland to be insulted or attacked because of your sexuality. You can find out more about reporting hate crime here.

Our team at SX are here if you want to speak to someone about your sexuality or gender identity, and we can offer peer support if you are thinking of coming out. Just get in touch

Looking for support? Can't find the answers you need online? Fill out our self-referral form, and one of the team will get back to you.