Almost one in three men in same sex relationships have experienced, or are experiencing, domestic abuse. We also know that men in same sex relationships are less likely to report domestic abuse and continue to live in silence.

Domestic abuse affects people of all sexual orientations, gender identities or expressions.

It is a pattern of controlling behaviours by a partner or ex-partner and can be emotional, mental, financial, physical or sexual, including sex by coercion and without consent. It may also include homophobic, biphobic or transphobic abuse.

We realise that domestic abuse can be extremely difficult to talk about. At SX, we can help you talk things through at your own pace and on your own terms. We will not force you to discuss anything that feels uncomfortable, and we will never take any action against your partner unless you want us to (or unless you are in serious immediate danger).

Getting Support

If you think that you might be experiencing domestic abuse, you can arrange one-to-one support via the SX Hub or phone and speak to one of the team on 0131 652 3250. You can also call our Helpline for support on 0300 123 2523 (Tues/Wed, 12pm-9pm,) or email helpline@lgbthealth.org.uk.

If you would like some information about how you can keep yourself safe, The LGBT Domestic Abuse Project has some excellent information on their website (the project is run by LGBT Youth Scotland, but this information is designed for LGBT people of all ages).

Police Scotland

Many gay and bisexual men find it difficult to report domestic abuse to the police. This is often because of fear around stigma, prejudice or not understanding some of the issues that might arise.

Thankfully Police Scotland are sensitive to the needs of LGBT people experiencing domestic abuse, and now have specially trained LGBT Liaison Officers all over Scotland.

You can report domestic abuse on the Police Scotland website. Alternatively, if you are unsure, you can discuss it with SX first or report it via the above Helpline.

Other Support

Abused Men in Scotland (AMIS) supports male victims of domestic abuse all over Scotland.

Rape Crisis Scotland provides support to people of all genders and sexual orientations who have experienced sexual violence.